Another damn same-sex marriage post

On National Review Online, David Frum goes into panic mode:

Same-sex marriage is a revolution in the definition of marriage for everyone - a revolution not just in law, but in consciousnessness.

And one effect of this revolution - and for many proponents, one of the revolution's aims - is to make forever unthinkable the idea that husbands and wives each have special duties to one another, and that a husband's duties to his wife - while equally binding and equally supreme - are not the same as a wife's duties to her husband.

Hey, I saw you palm that card! Exactly what, about same-sex marriage, could make unthinkable the idea that husbands and wives have special duties to one another?

As for the idea that the duties husbands have to their wives are not the same as the duties wives have to their husbands--if there's one thing I've learned in ten-plus years of happy nonmarriage to Ron, it's that no two couples support and care for each other in quite the same way, and over time their roles in their relationship can and must change as circumstances do.

Frum's entitled to his ideal of marriage, and if his wife shares that ideal, so much the better, but I truly don't think I'm trying to legislate his type of marriage out of existence and I'd appreciate it if he and others like him would return the favor.